How can I support myself?
Look after yourself
Knowing someone you care about is having suicidal feelings can be very distressing and emotionally draining. Some people make repeated suicide attempts and appear to express a strong wish for death. Accepting that someone has suicidal feelings and making sense of how you feel can be difficult.
It is important to look after your own physical and mental well-being. For example, make sure you get enough sleep, eat regularly, and do things you enjoy.
Try not to blame yourself
You may feel guilty, upset or angry with the person who is considering ending their life. It is understandable to experience a range of feelings. If you are in a close relationship with someone who has suicidal thoughts, you may feel that what is going on for the person is in some way your fault. If you do feel like this, it can be helpful to talk to someone you trust about how you feel.
It is important that you are able to look after your own health and ask for help to deal with the emotions you may be experiencing. For example, you could:
- Talk to a friend or family member
- Get a talking treatment if you are finding things difficult
- Go to a caretaker’s support group or get support from a caretaker’s organisation (see ‘Useful contacts’)
Write your own support list
You could compile your own support list with details of organisations and people. Keep it in a handy place for when you need it (see ‘Who can I speak to?’ in ‘Support plan’).