What can I do to help myself?
The causes for sleep problems often depend on the individual, and will vary according to your personal circumstances.This means that different techniques work for different people.You may need to try several different things in order to find what works for you. Here are some suggestions that might help you improve your sleep yourself.
Establish a routine
Try to establish a regular sleeping pattern by going to bed and waking up at roughly the same time every day. This will mean that your body starts to associate times of the day with sleeping.You may need to do this for several weeks in order to establish a regular pattern. Go to bed only when you feel tired enough to sleep. If you usually take a long time to get to sleep, delay getting into bed until the point when you would normally fall asleep. Then get up at your usual time. This may mean you will spend less time actually in bed, but more of the time in bed asleep. Hopefully your sleep pattern will improve.
If you are in a different time zone after a flight, do what you can to adjust to the new time. However tired you feel, go to bed close to the local bedtime, then get up reasonably early the next morning.Your body should then adjust to the new pattern quickly.
Make sure where you sleep is comfortable
Before you go to bed, make sure that where you sleep is comfortable, and that the temperature, light and noises levels are right for you. People have different ideas of what is comfortable, so you may need to experiment to work out what works best for you. On the whole, dark, quiet and cool environments generally make it easier to sleep.
If there is anything particular that is disturbing your sleep in the night, for example if you have a partner that snores, or a loud clock that keeps you awake, try to find a solution.You may want to sleep in a different room from your partner for a few nights or use earplugs to block out any noise. Using blackout blinds or curtains may be helpful if light is stopping you from sleeping.
Relax before you go to bed
It’s important to relax and switch off from daily worries before you try to go to sleep. Stop any stimulating activities, such as working or doing exercise, and avoid looking at screens, like your phone, a computer, the TV or a tablet, an hour before you go to bed.
It may also help to do something calming before you go to bed, such as listening to relaxing music, doing something creative or having a bath.
If you still struggle to go to sleep, you may find you need a more structured relaxation routine. There are several things you can try:
- Breathing exercises – in a comfortable position, breathe in deeply, then breathe out slowly – making your out-breath longer than your in-breath. Repeat until you feel relaxed.
- Muscle relaxation – consciously tense and relax your muscles, one after the other, starting with your toes and working up your body until you reach the top of your head.
- Visualisation – picture a scene or landscape that has pleasant memories for you.
- Meditation – you can learn meditation techniques at a class or by using self-help materials. Many people also find learning mindfulness techniques helpful.
Avoid doing stimulating activities in the bedroom
If you carry out stimulating activities in your bedroom, you may start to associate your bedroom with being active.This could mean you find it hard to relax and go to sleep. Avoid doing stressful activities in your bedroom, such as studying, working or doing exercise. Even doing supposedly relaxing activities like watching TV or using a laptop in bed can stimulate your mind and make it hard to fall asleep.
Don’t force yourself to sleep if you can’t
Don’t try to force sleep – this will only make you feel more anxious. If you’re finding it difficult to sleep, get up, go to another room and try to relax there. Do something soothing, such as listening to music, until you’re tired enough to go back to bed. If you are awake for long periods, repeat this process as many times as you need to.
If you’re lying in bed and are unable to sleep, try keeping your eyes open. As they start to close, tell yourself to resist. Often the more you try to stay awake, the sleepier you become.
If you can’t fall asleep because of unwanted thoughts, you may find it useful to use a distraction technique. For example, you may find that visualising a pleasant place or occasion, or repeatedly saying a few words or a phrase, can help. Doing breathing exercises or focusing on your breathing can also distract you from unwanted thoughts that are keeping you awake.
If you wake up during the night, go through your relaxation routine again before trying to go back to sleep.
Catch up on missed sleep
If you have missed out on a lot of sleep, or you are not sleeping at all, you may find you need to catch up. For example, you may want to sleep an hour or two more at weekends, or have short naps during the day.
However, it’s important to try not to sleep too much during the day as this may change your sleep routine and affect how well you sleep at night. Try to nap only when it’s essential – for example, if you are very sleep deprived and it would be impossible or dangerous to carry on with your usual daily tasks.Try not to sleep for too long, and nap at a regular time each day. Generally, 30–40 minutes in the early afternoon works well for most people.
Diet and physical activity
What you eat and drink can affect how well you sleep. Be careful about using stimulants like alcohol, caffeine and nicotine, particularly in the evening. Large meals late in the evening should also be avoided. It’s also a good idea to avoid drinking too much liquid before you go to bed, so you don’t need to get up to use the toilet in the night.
Doing regular physical activity can also help you sleep, as it makes you more physically tired – particularly if you exercise outdoors.This doesn’t have to be strenuous exercise. Any activity, for example housework, going for a walk or yoga can help. However, avoid doing exercise late in the evening as the brain chemicals it releases give you energy, which can affect your ability to sleep. (See Mind’s leaflet Mind tips for better mental health: physical activity for more information.)
Regulate light exposure
Light has an important impact on how well you sleep. Generally, you will sleep better at night if you have spent time in natural daylight during the day. If you spend most of the day inside, try and build in short breaks where you can go outside.
If you can’t go outside, you may find it helpful to use a light box to regulate your light exposure during the day. Light boxes are extremely bright lights – they have at least 10 times the intensity of household lights. They are designed to replicate natural daylight.You can find out more about light boxes, including advice on how to use them, in Mind’s booklet Understanding SAD.
Avoid bright lights at night, as these can disturb your sleep. Turn off backlit electronic devices such as smartphones, tablets or laptops, and dim the lights in the room where you are going to sleep. If you wake up in the night and need to use the toilet, avoid switching on a main light as you may find it harder to fall asleep again afterwards.
Keep a sleep diary
If you have experienced sleep problems for a long time, you might find it difficult to work out what is affecting your sleep. In this case, you may find it useful to keep a sleep diary. A sleep diary involves recording information about your sleep habits.This can help you identify the factors that are affecting your sleep. It may also be helpful for any professionals you are working with.
A sleep diary could include information about:
- what time you go to bed and what time you get up
- total hours of sleep
- overall quality of sleep, ranked 1–5
- how many times you wake up in the night, how long you are awake and what you do while you are awake
- whether you have nightmares, night terrors or sleep paralysis, or have sleepwalked during the night
- whether you sleep during the day and for how long
- any medication you are taking, including dose and what time you take it
- the amount of caffeine, alcohol or nicotine you have
- the amount of physical activity you do
- what you eat and drink
- your general feelings and moods, including any anxious and repetitive thoughts.
You could create your own sleep diary, or you may want to use a template. You may need to try a few before finding one that suits you.
Try to resolve stresses and worries
Try to identify anything in your life that is causing you stress or worry that might be affecting your sleep. For example, you may be worried about relationship problems or your financial situation. Or, you may be sleeping badly because you have a stressful job or take on too many responsibilities.
Once you have identified what is causing your sleep problem, there may be practical measures you can take to address the problem, such as visiting a financial advisor or talking to your employer about reducing your workload. Some people also find it useful to write a list of what is worrying them early in the evening, to help get rid of anxieties before sleep.
Try a herbal remedy
You may find that herbal sleep remedies, such as hop or lavender pillows, or a few drops of lavender oil in the bath or on your pillow, help you relax. There is also some evidence to suggest that valerian, passion flower and lemon balm help to promote sleep. Check with your doctor or a pharmacist before taking a herbal remedy to make sure it is safe, particularly if you are taking any other medication.
Recognise and challenge unhelpful thought patterns about sleep
If you have long-term sleep problems, it may be that you have developed unhelpful thoughts or associations about sleep which are making the problems worse. For example, your thought pattern may go something like this:
- Difficulty falling asleep
- Disturbed or light sleep
- Feelings stressed
- “I’m afraid to go to sleep because”
- “I might have a nightmare”
If this is the case, you may need to learn to recognise and challenge your thoughts about sleep. Self-help materials may help you do this. Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) helps people change negative patterns of thinking or behaviour. Self-help materials based on CBT techniques have been shown to be effective in treating sleep problems.There are many CBT-based self-help materials, for example worksheets and exercises, available in books and online. (See Mind’s booklet Making sense of cognitive behaviour therapy.)
However, it may be difficult to change the way you think and you might find that you need help from a therapist, particularly if your sleep problems started a long time ago or in childhood.