What can I do to help myself with depression?
Experiencing depression can be very difficult, but there are steps you can take that might help. This section has some suggestions for you to consider:
- talk to someone you trust
- try peer support
- try mindfulness
- look after your physical health
- try to keep active
- keep a mood diary
- spend time in nature
- practise self-care.
Some people find these ideas useful, but remember that different things work for different people at different times. Only try what you feel comfortable with, and try not to put too much pressure on yourself. If something isn’t working for you (or doesn’t feel possible just now), you can try something else, or come back to it another time.
Talk to someone you trust
It might feel hard to start talking about how you are feeling, but many people find that just sharing their experiences can help them feel better. It may be that just having someone listen to you and show they care can help in itself.
If you aren’t able to open up to someone close to you, The Samaritans Hong Kong (multilingual hotline: 2896 0000) or The Samaritan Befrienders Hong Kong (Chinese hotline: 2389 2222) run a 24-hour helpline that you can call to talk to someone confidentially.
“[What helps is] surrounding myself with friends and family who understand without pointing it out, who treat me normally but recognise that everyday life can be a struggle sometimes.”
Try peer support
Peer support brings together people who’ve had similar experiences to support each other. Many people find it helps them to share ideas about how to stay well, connect with others and feel less alone. You could:
- Contact a specialist organisation. For example, you can find details of support groups, forums and helplines on the Amity Mutual Support Society website (tel: 2332 2759), or use Mind HK’s Community Directory to locate more services
“I find reading other people’s experiences makes me feel less like I’m alone in this. It’s actually made me feel more comfortable.”
Mindfulness is a way of giving your full attention to the present moment. Some studies show that practising mindfulness can help to manage depression.
Some structured mindfulness-based therapies have also been developed to treat these problems more formally. For example, the National Institute of Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommends mindfulness-based cognitive therapy for the management of depression.
See our pages on mindfulness for more information about what it involves and how to get started.
“Mindfulness does help me with my mental health issues. It’s not the cure and it won’t work every single time, but it has helped me to alleviate anxiety and depression by centring my thoughts.”
Look after your physical health
Experiencing depression can make it hard to find the energy to look after yourself. But taking steps to look after your physical health can make a difference to how you feel:
- Try to get good sleep. For lots of people who experience depression, sleeping too little or too much can be a daily problem. Getting good sleep can help to improve your mood and increase your energy levels. See our pages on coping with sleep problems for tips to help.
- Think about your diet. Eating regularly and keeping your blood sugar stable can make a difference to your mood and energy levels. See our pages on food and mood for more tips.
- Try to do some physical activity. Many people find exercise a challenge but activities like yoga, swimming or walking can be a big boost to your mood. If you don’t feel confident doing exercise, you could start off with smaller activities – such as gentle chair-based exercises in your own home – and build from there. See our pages on physical activity and your mental health for more information.
- Try to look after your hygiene. When you’re experiencing depression, it’s easy for hygiene to not feel like a priority. But small things, like taking a shower and getting fully dressed whether or not you’re going out of the house, can make a big difference to how you feel.
- Try to avoid recreational drugs and alcohol. While you might want to use recreational drugs or alcohol to cope with difficult feelings about yourself, in the long run they can make you feel worse and can prevent you from dealing with underlying problems. We have more information about how recreational drugs and alcohol can affect your mental health.
“I try to keep active, even if that’s just getting out of bed, washed and ready before 10am, so that the days don’t become an endless blur of nothingness.”
Try to keep active
- Try joining a group. This could be anything from a community project or a sports team to a hobby group. The important thing is to find an activity you enjoy, or perhaps something you’ve always wanted to try, to help you feel motivated.
- Try new things. Trying something new, like starting a new hobby, learning something new or even trying new food, can help boost your mood and break unhelpful patterns of thinking and behaviour.
- Try volunteering. Volunteering, or just offering to help someone out, can make you feel better about yourself and less alone.
- Set realistic goals. Try to set yourself achievable goals, like getting dressed every day or cooking yourself a meal. Achieving these things can help you feel good and boost your self-confidence, and help you move on to bigger goals.
Keep a mood diary
Keeping a mood diary can help you keep track of any changes in your mood, and you might find that you have more good days than you think. It can also help you notice if any activities, places or people make you feel better or worse. There are many freely available, including diaries from Bipolar UK and MoodPanda (English only).
Spend time in nature
Spending time in nature has been found to help with mental health problems like depression. For example, research into ecotherapy, a type of formal treatment which involves doing activities outside in nature, has shown it can help with mild to moderate depression. This might be due to combining regular physical activity and social contact with being outside in nature. See our information on nature and mental health for more tips.
Taking time to look after yourself, such as doing something you enjoy, can help to support your recovery and improve your quality of life. Take a look at our information on improving your self-esteem, improving your wellbeing and managing stress for further tips.
“I’ve made a list of things I usually enjoy, like knitting or playing the guitar, and I try to do little bits of these activities when I’m feeling low.”