Is it possible to be FIRED by a therapist? In my case, YES! In hindsight, the reason became clear.
I signed up for about 10 sessions with a lovely therapist who offered Zoom counselling from California. I was proud to seek help for anxiety and relationship issues. However, my partner and I didn’t engage with the homework she assigned. I mistakenly thought that signing up was enough to ensure a perfect partnership.
After a few sessions, the therapist noticed our lack of commitment and told me we didn’t seem like a right fit for her. She offered a refund, explaining that we prioritized other things over our “bleeding neck” issues. If we weren’t willing to put in the work, there wasn’t much she could do. And you know, she was right.
Following that experience, I embarked on a journey to find another therapist. Each time, I strive to prioritize the sessions and homework, no matter how busy I am. Remember, seeking therapy is often a lifelong journey. It’s wonderful to find someone who is a great fit from the start, but don’t be discouraged if you need to change.
Put in the effort if you believe you can work well with your therapist. They deserve your respect, and your commitment can make a difference. Therapists help you unravel the emotions stirring inside you. As my professor Eve Ekman says, “Increasing emotional awareness is one of the most scientifically validated ways to enhance our well-being.” So respect your therapist and do your homework, if she/he asks that of you!